Cantaloupe Phase
- Nov 22, 2016
- 2 min read
Cantaloupe Phase
/ˈkan(t)əˌlōp/ /fāz/
A phrase Donny and I use that practically means the honeymoon stage in a relationship.
First things first why do we call it the cantaloupe phase? Well... I won't explain this as well as Donny probably will (Let's hope he reads this, edits it out, and fixes my horrible explanation) (Donny's Edit: This is too cute to edit out, I'm going to leave it!) but I know just enough to talk about it. Basically, there is a Vietnamese proverb that says that when you love somebody, even if they are the shape of a squash you will see them as round as a cantaloupe. (I am pretty sure I just butchered that explanation.) What that means is that even when you love someone, they are what you want them to be in your eyes. (Donny's Edit: To add to that, it also means that the person you love can do no wrong) When we say cantaloupe phase, we just mean honeymoon stage... really. Donny and I just like to pretend we can be trendy and do our own thing.
Now that I have, sort of -not really-, explained that, let's talk about the cantaloupe phase in LDR's.
1. Long Distance Relationships have a longer cantaloupe phase and the reason why is simple...
YOU CAN'T GET TIRED OF SOMEONE YOU NEVER SEE.
Donny and I have a rough time with scheduling phone calls or video chats, so when we do speak we talk about happy things and fun stuff that happened during our day. We don't have too much time to spend fighting or learning each other's annoying habits.
Now, don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean we never get tired of each other. But LDR's do have longer honeymoon stages than your regular relationships.
2. In LDR's, there is also re-occurring honeymoon stages. We might start getting used to each other and just when we are about to exit the cantaloupe stage.... a trip is scheduled and we see each other again and WE ARE BACK to the honeymoon stage.
Seeing them again is like an extra push to keep going and it refreshes the relationship.
3. Last but not least, LDR's can sometimes have a reverse honeymoon phase... Yes reverse.
The beginning of the relationship starts with trying to schedule calls and video chats (all the annoying hard work) and after that is scheduled, the relationship gets easier.
Whatever the case may be, enjoy the phase! Use it. Write down the things you love about them, what qualities made you fall in love with them, then read the list again when you want to rip their head off. Hopefully that helps ... Don't rip their head off.
P.S. For now, we will just try and enjoy the phase. He still seems perfect in my eyes, I know that won't be the case later on in life but might as well enjoy it!
P.s.s. Make cute videos to make you smile. Something that recaps the cute moments. The times where they were your cantaloupe and not a squash (I don't even know if squash is part of the analogy... it might have been a watermelon...)
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