A Constant

There is this constant state that you will find yourself in when you are in a long distance relationship(LDR). The constant is not with your partner but with everyone around you.

There will be constant questions, constant answers, constant concerns. What I mean by this, is that whenever you bring up your LDR, people will always ask: how you met, where you met, what site, when, and the initial impressions. Then you will proceed by saying that it was online which will raise more questions such as, "And you're sure you're not being catfished? Have you seen him in person? People online are completely different than in real life."

The trick here is to be patient. To know that your relationship is important enough to be explained to those you care about.

The questions will always be the same, and the answers will always be the same, and the concerns will always be the same. To use my relationship as an example, the age difference is a concern to many from both parties, Donny's and mine. As of now, Donny is 12 years older than me. I am 19 and he is 31. People always gasp in shock when I mention his age. It is not a big deal to me simply because we can relate on so many levels and we understand each other quite well. We also have complementing personalities. But it is still a common concern among family and friends that I might be taken advantage of.

On Donny's side, I might not always be taken seriously, by his friends and family, because he is in San Diego and his girlfriend is very far away and 19 so it surely can't be a committed relationship. Donny explains to me that he gets the constant question of, "is it serious?"

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The answer to the most asked question:

Why are Donny and I not in the same city? Well it's simple, our lives are in two different stages right now. It won't always be like this. But knowing that we find each other worth the distance, makes our relationship that much more special. I explain to those who ask that I want to travel and that he does too. Also that I have dreams to pursue and that he is not holding me back but pushing me forward. Answering with this usually helps clear the air.

The point that I am trying to make or the one thing that I want to come out of this post is that you should probably get used to the questions and rehearse your answers. But know that, I am saying this from experience, the more you tell the story, the easier it will get. The more you tell the story, the more you will trust your relationship. The more you tell the story, the more will like your story, and the more you will love your long distance relationship.